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4. The Unfaithful-Ask for a home telephone number. If he hesitates or says that he does not have one, then make a point to call between 8 and 10pm. If he never answers, this may be a sign that he is married or in a committed relationship. You may also know that he may be seeing another woman when he cannot account for time that he has been out of touch with you.

5. The Game Player-Does your man say one thing, but do another? Does he make promises and then fail to keep them? Do you find that he says what he thinks that you want to hear? Are you constantly confused and never seem to be able to put your finger on who this guy really is or what his motives are? When beginning to date, pay attention to your own intuition or "inner voice" that may be warning you when a guy may be playing games.

6. The Jealous-Does he come unglued when you talk to someone of the opposite sex even if he is a stranger? Does he automatically think that you are having an affair if your male coworker calls you about a project? Does his reaction to your plans to go out with the girls seem out of proportion?

7. The Boundary Violator-Does he respect your boundaries and know what a comfortable progression toward intimacy is? If he calls you 14 times a day, leaves voice mails, then attacks you for not calling him back right away, then this is a big a problem. Another sign of trouble is if he expects you to move in with him after only dating for a month.

	"Seize the moment. Remember all those women on the Titanic who waved off the dessert cart." -Erma Bombeck
	Watch out for these types of men and the warning signs! 1. The Scammer-If he seems too good to be true, he probably is. He may be out for your money or valuables, but mask this by presenting as wealthy himself. He may "flash his cash" and treat you to expensive dates at first or brag about his [supposed] assets or large scale business dealings. You will know something is up when he cannot back up his claims with proof. Once he knows that he "has you" he may then come up with a hard luck story about his "assets being tied up" and ask "for a loan" from you. The scams are endless, so be careful. 2. The Stalker-If you find that your new love interest suddenly shows up in places where you frequent, but makes it seem like a coincidence, this may be trouble. If he also knows or mentions information that you know you only told someone else in private, he may have bugged your cell phone or residence. It might feel wonderful to have a guy ask for your email address, phone number, or "what your week looks like", but in reality he may be using these tactics as a way to learn your schedule and habits. 3. The Abuser-Ask about previous relationships and how they ended. If he is vague about this, or makes some excuse like "oh that's boring" and always redirects the conversation back to you or other topics, this is grounds for possible concern. Abusers may begin their destructive pattern verbally by, for example, belittling you or telling you how frivolous your interests are. Then, as time goes by, he escalates to physical abuse. He is subtle, and his behavior will start small, like a small push or shove at first. Before you know it, he is bashing your head against the wall. 8. The Liar-Do you catch him in "little white lies" that he shrugs off as miscommunications? Does he tell you that he loves all of the same activities as you do (like you are 2 pees in a pod, just destined to be soul mates). Does he say things that contradict each other? Does his story change? 9. Controller-He may text you just to say he is thinking about you and that is nice, but notice if the attention increases in intensity and frequency. Does he limit who you see outside of your relationship, become upset when you speak to family members on the phone, or insist on knowing where you are every moment of the day when you are not with him? 10. The Narcissist-He demands to be the center of attention and becomes angry if he isn't. He is socially inept; he talks only about himself and asks no questions about you. He lacks empathy; he "doesn't get it" when you become upset about something that he did or did not do. He also believes that he "is special" and that he does not have to live by the same rules as everyone else.

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How to get a man's attention...

If you REALLY want to impress a man who is flirting with you... instead of basking in his flirtatious attention, ask him - in an equally flirtatious way - this simple question:

"So tell me... what kind of woman do you respect?"
The answer you get will say volumes about him.

Common mistakes women make...(men aren't the only ones who do dumb things!)

Mistake 1: Leading A Man To Think You Are "Needy" And "Insecure"
Sadly, even confident women often "accidentally" give off one of these signs... and just one can kill the chance of a man asking you on a second date.

Talking or saying nasty things about your past boyfriends.Saying bad things about men you have been involved with actually reflects the negatively back on YOU. It makes a man worry you are carrying around "baggage" that HE will have to deal with should he become involved with you.

Speaking negatively about other women. When women call other women names like "slut", "bitch", and "crazy", it is anything but impressive to a man you are attracted you. Women will often do this when they see a good looking, desirable woman, especially if they feel their man might be attracted to her. This just makes a man think you are trying to cover up your own insecurities, and looking for validation and attention. Not good.

Too much physical contact, especially in public.
If you are constantly hanging on a man or touching him too much he'll start to see it as clingy behavior... but you'll never hear about this from him. It's far better to save your touches for short and infrequent moments that will surprise and enchant him.

Mistake 2: Appealing To His "Sexual" Side Instead Of His Emotional Side
Many women make the mistake of thinking that men are primarily driven by sex alone... and think if they can attract a man SEXUALLY they will be able to attract him EMOTIONALLY as well.

Women too often give up sex to a man in the hopes that it will translate into a relationship and get them what they want. In reality, a man has the capacity to view a sexual connection and an emotional connection as two entirely different things Men are out for far more than just sex... and a woman who knows how to fulfill a man EMOTIONALLY and SEXUALLY will be the woman who captures a man's heart... and gets that same fulfillment for HERSELF.

Mistake 3: Not Knowing How To Size Up A Man's "Relationship Potential"
A lot of women will decide whether or not they should put energy into building a relationship with a man based on ATTRACTION. Yes, attraction is important. But it can also be DANGEROUS.

When we feel a strong sense of attraction for someone, it can cause us to override our logic and ignore our instincts... leading us to overlook potential partner's deadly faults that could spell trouble down the road.

If you've ever found yourself stuck in a relationship that is dragging you down, this is probably why.

It's important to be able to size a guy up and spot any "warning signs" of a future bad relationship FAST... so you don't waste any of your time or emotional energy on someone who isn't right for you... or who will leave you heartbroken.